Should a child be raised by the carrot or stick?

          The way you raise a child can be very impactful for her/his future. A parents and a teacher's job is not to limit or decide for the child, but for them to guide him/her- I will further analyse and describe how both the carrot and the stick are the wrong methods of which a child can grow in.
         Let's begin  with the inceptions of the wrong-doing of the stick. Violence is never the answer, and the stick contradicts this statement and implies that it is. Children are at a sensitive growing stage, and implanting punishments not only would not get the message desired across, but would also make them fear it and therefore fear learning. It forbids mistakes, which not only is a lost opprtunity for learning, but also strives child to achieve perfection - which shouldn't be the transmitted message.Also, they will quickly accept the lesson that is trying to be taught but will not actually accept or aprove of it, only want to evade the pain that raises from it.  The child shouldn't be motivated to work under threat, the motivation should come from within his/her desire. The stick outshadows the idea of acceptance and comfort and for it to be known that it's fine to speak your mind. Parents/teachers are not growing the child to be confident, but fearful. By using stick, the trauma and anger is embodied and bottled up inside the child, later influencing him/her to  adapt behaviour in life, and can lead them to be abusive towards others. Parents are preventing child from being comfortable, from speaking and communicating. What parents are doing is shaping the child psychologically to be defensive, evasive, judgmental of themselves and others.  It damages child psychologically, and emotionally leaving raw pain. This could be considered exageration, but this method is extreme and does create extreme results. Using stick builds a persona of anger, spiteful and revengeful that will thinly cover the low breaking self-esteem and confidence that the child actually has.
       The stick is bad, and the carrot isn't less of a bad-doing. The carrot cancels out the idea of any self-motivation, much like the stick. Children don't have their own initative to carry out his opinions or ideas, because he/she will only look forward to the stick. The stick impends and slowly establishes it's roots in the child's mind, setting it'd course towards being depedents on praise and approval. As a parent/teacher, the cultivated