Are children better motivated by rewards or punishment?
Social influence: the good and bad
Whether we choose to see it or not, there is a thin string surronding us, a thin string that has no inception nor termination. This string may be thin, but it's resolute is firm; it's set to manevour and maniplute our movements and actions in every day life.
What I'm talking about is the lasso that was designed by society. We never realize it's there, because of it's illusioante path of bringing out features and characteristics of yourself that you may never have used; words or phrases that you may deem that you'd never mention or think of, but in the haunting reality, you will.
The human mind is one that wants to fit in; whether it can or will is another story. It is within us to want and communicate, and the crossroad of what we have to do and the consquences are inconsquetional to the subconcious mind's determination.
A man. A woman. A child. A dog. Believe it or not, all of the following seemingly adapt a social behaviour tht would be accepted and rejoiced for a group to accept them. In this article, I will mention only the human concepts of 'fitting in', of 'dissolving into the background', and will further give birth to ideas and theories of my own.
if you noticed the order of which I put the list, you'd be observant and perceptive enough to understand how I mentioned a man before a woman, and a human before an animal. It's upsetting to realize the ladder of importance that we created; the ethics of what matters most. Above a woman and a man, we're barely animals - jst because our senses are much more developed, does an equalize us acting in manners that define us as better or on the top of the cycle of nature. we are nature, and whether we choose to blindly ignore it or to adapt our life to it, it is the truth. The core of our being.
Nature works in mysterious ways, and is often the one scientists turn to when it comes to questions about ourselves. For example, the loopholes of which we percieve women as.
A woman is regarded as an inferior; whether by religon, nature, job-wise or not, it is them that are often a step down from men. This obviously was impacted by history's view of a woman, and it's lingering touch that leave it's inky traces on our minds. A woman was known to be feminie, known to have to please the man according to him.
obviously, times have changed enough to realize that women have their own minds and opinion and often find it disrespectful when a man critcises her looks - yet, women still find the need and strieve to look good, to have a sexual appeal to achieve anything. You rarely find a man in position of needed a diet, or when in a job interview been questioned for more. Society impacts the way a woman still thinks she needs more attributes, to be closer to perfection when it's least common for a man to be pressured to look good.
That's not to say a man doesn't have his own pressure to behold and grasp - the pressure of simply being a man. What makes a man more of a superior to a woman? It's the presence of dominance, the control that he beholds and wears as a frail mask to attempt and show his position. The pressure of being a man - of being masculine - the machoism of having large muscles, of a strong presence. What is masculine? Something that is typical of a man; Typicality being key word. What is typical is what'ss expected, and what is expected is what is given; thus the climbing of a man being a man. Just like the colors black and white, what's a woman and what is a man is clearly separated. For men, atleast. Women often are comfortable wtih male settings; example, football or even wearing tuxes. Men find uncomfort in it, because they are not living up to their title if they do anything even close to the word woman - why is the pressure to men being men higher then a woman being feminie? or are tehy both the same?
This way of categorizing and labeling influences the decision and actions of today's world. Male homosexuals are often persucted and insulted for being homosexual. Contrary to popular belief, I have a theory that most homosexuals aren't accepting because of their partner-choice, but because of their social act- because being homosexual, to some, may be signficant to losing the title of what it is to be a man. Homosexuals are deemed to be more effemnite by both media and society - which leads to some generalisation and sexism.
Not all homosexuals are effemnite, just not like all women are. What troubles me in the haterd of homosexuals is the underlying tone of devaluation towards women and the unstable male self-esteem.
Think of a scale - on one end, there's a woman and on the other a man. Where would you place a homosexual man?
Stasticaly speaking, closer to the woman. Why? because homosexuals are seen as men who h
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